Do everything with a mind that lets go. If you let go a little you will have a little peace; ifyou let go a lot you will have a lot of peace; if you let go completely you will have complete peace. *
~ K- mom from unschoolingbasics
The secret is not to get them to be more obedient, calmer kids. The secret is to make yourself more calm and positive and flexible and mindful. You can never control another person for very long. You can only control your self, your choices, your reactions, your attitude.
Go stand in front of a full length mirror and see what your kids see. Smile. Relax. Adopt some really positive self talk. Think about what's playing in your head and switch off the negative stuff. Choose to be positive. Choose to think of yourself as a mom getting better at her job every moment. Choose to think of your kids as just right.