Wednesday, April 1, 2009

What happened

I love sharing these for those that don't get them.
Just the other day I notice George asking what we all parents with good intentions ask. When the moment passed I gently reminded him him that he try to be in the moment with BellaSky rather then ask her what is wrong because why do we need to explain why we cry or are hurt. Just like up at Shalom when someone is crying, we don't ask them why they are crying we just hold them in that space. It isn't any different with our little ones. Sometimes I gracefully fall into the habit of asking what happened to Trinity or BellaSky and it hit me a couple of weeks ago what I have been doing, and I have been trying to be more aware of myself and be more present with them. There is so much that happens while George is working I can't always remember all my aha moments..I was happy to have the opportunity to share it with him when I heard him ask. He was like "OH Yeah, that's right".
When I read this I was like woohoo! I am one step ahead of mister groove man...:) One pat on my mamagroove shoulder.

THE DAILY GROOVE ~ by Scott Noelle
www.enjoyparenting.com/dailygroove

:: "What Happened?!" ::

A crying child runs into the house from outside,
seeking comfort. The well-meaning parent's first
words: "What happened?!"

This common reaction is one of many subtle ways we
teach our children values that we ourselves never
consciously chose...

* What happened (the past) is more important than
what's happening now (the present).

* Reason is more important than emotions. You can't
simply have a feeling; you have to explain *why*.

* Things happen TO you. You don't create your own
experience.

A few decades later, this child will be reading Daily
Groove messages reminding her to stay *present*, that
feelings *are* important, and that we *do* create our
own experiences! :-)

The next time you're about to ask your child what
happened, decide instead to be still -- to be fully
present with your child, appreciate his or her
emotional journey, and enjoy the feeling of
connection.

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